Young maiden, do you have friends? How many? Do you have a best friend or not? Did you know that God cares very deeply about who we pick as our friends, how we treat them and how they treat us? Being a good friend and picking good friends can be a difficult business! I would like to tell you a few things that I have learned about how to honor God in our friendships.
First, how can we be a good friend? Here is an excellent selection from the book, Beautiful Girlhood (pg. 97-98) on that very subject.
“A friendship does not grow up spontaneously. It must have a good soil in which to take root, good seed from which to start, and care and cultivation, in order to become its best. The good soil is sincerity and truth coupled with kindness and affection. The good seed is love and appreciation.And it must be watched closely that no weeds of jealousy or envy creep in, and the soil must be constantly stirred by kind acts, words of appreciation and affection, and mutual admiration. There dare be no selfish interests or untrusting suspicions in true friendship. The smallest bit of mistrust will blight it like frost. Friendship is tender, but it is beautiful.”
A good standard to remember, yes? Besides this, what else can we do to make sure that we are being friends that are true?
First of all, try not to have a best friend. God calls us to be compassionate and loving to all we meet. Having a best friend often turns into favoritism among young girls and this is truly displeasing to God who, as it says in His Word, shows favoritism to no one. (Romans 2:11)
Secondly, be truthful, kind, helpful, gentle, generous and sensitive to others needs. Be yourself! Treat your friends as treasures.
Lastly, remember the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Be the kind of friend that you would want to find in someone else. To have a friend you must first be one!
A friend loves at all times,
and a brother is born for adversity.